One of the challenges many parents face when communicating with their children is figuring out how to help their children feel heard and understood. When communicating with kids, parents can easily fall into patterns of giving commands, asking questions, teaching or trying to fix things for their kids. However, an alternative means of communicating can include validating statements, which can produce more positive parent-child interactions and relationships. Some benefits of using validating statements can include parents feeling more centered and calm, and children feeling more independent and self-regulated. With a little bit of practice, validating statements can become second nature. It's easiest to imagine of yourself as a narrator, making statements with an empathic tone to describe what's happening in a non-judgmental way that sums up what your child is trying to communicate.
Some examples of validating statements are:
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